Comments on: You Don’t Call Me Skinny, I Won’t Call You Fat. Deal?

By: lebang

lebang — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 20:46:44 +0000

as a dancer, actor, and choreographer in south africa i’ve had to deal with those idiotic comments throughout my carrer, i tried gym and protein supplements but it only worked for a small while. never worry urself about idiots, in my culture there is a saying that goes: “when a DOG is barking at you, you dont kneel down and bark back.they are only compensating for their inferioity/inadequacy by questioning your superiority. poeple hate what they cant conquer, so they try to make u feel bad for having what they can only aspire to have. KULT-MUZIK

By: BOSSY

BOSSY — Sun, 02 Sep 2007 13:26:40 +0000

Bossy is still working on her slouching issue too. She thinks in her past life she was a Question Mark.

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sun, 02 Sep 2007 04:50:29 +0000

I’ve had to endure those types of ‘compliments’ my whole life. And, like you, I’m always flabbergasted…which is immediately followed by p*ssed. Because I cannot imagine walking up to someone overweight and making the reverse sort of comment. And the ‘offenders’ will often say that they meant it as a compliment…but if that’s the case, then why does it sound/feel so angry? I’m so tired of feeling like I have to explain my eating habits (I eat at least as much, if not more, than my mate who weighs at least twice what I do). You’re gorgeous…and I don’t just mean physically…your spirit must glow in person, ’cause it seriously shines on your blog.

By: laurie from sk*rt

laurie from sk*rt — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 21:28:58 +0000

i just wanted to say you look totally hot in those jeans.

By: heyrich

heyrich — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 17:04:43 +0000

Okay, Gwen. I gotta ask… What were the dozen better responses you came up with?!? Here’s your opportunity to come up with the skinny-person’s definitive list of snarky and/or insightful comebacks!

By: Jeana

Jeana — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 02:30:22 +0000

I think in their mind they ARE giving you a compliment. I don’t think it occurs to them that what they are saying sounds rude. I get the same kinds of encounters about having four kids.

By: Al Billings

Al Billings — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 23:22:23 +0000

There’s nothing wrong with you, Gwen.

Now, if I could find a way to lose 40 pounds without running myself ragged…

By: brightfeather

brightfeather — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 21:29:50 +0000

w00t! I loved this article. You look terrific. I have always been slender because I have always had a high metabolic rate like Matt. And like Brian I have always put up with people remarking on me being “skinny” and needing to gain weight. What a crock. I’m fit, healthy and attractive and so are you.

By: Brian

Brian — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 18:38:08 +0000

i was “given” the same kind of “compliments” whenever i’d see friends or family. Its pretty annoying. No “How the hell have you been?”s or “Shit its been forever, let’s catch up”s. Just “you’re still skinny like in high school. You need to eat more.” :(

I say we should have the ability to throw lots of tofu and organic foods at whomever says things like that. Or at least tell them they have a boogie. :)

I think you look great and from the little i’ve interacted with you its also because you feel wonderful about yourself. So maybe they’re all just jealous that you’re happy?

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 18:35:48 +0000

You are seriously dead on. I’ve spent my whole life being skinny. When I graduated high school I was 6′2″ and 135lbs with wet clothes on. I didn’t have an eating disorder, I just had a ridiculously overactive metabolism.

Now I’m a much healthier 170lbs but I still get shit for being “skinny”. I get it much less being in Boulder, but back home, I get people, including mostly my family, that just go on and on about me being skinny and that I need to get a little “meat on my bones”. I’m sorry, but I like who I am dammit.

And I totally agree…we can’t say anything bad about the opposite end of the spectrum, so it’s total crap that we’re just expected to take it.

Way to go Gwen